3.08.2010

Somewhere In The Middle.....

Since some of you are asking, here's the latest on Smooth and I.

We're not officially together-together, but we're together. As in, we're exclusive, we see each other multiple times a week, we talk everyday and are even making travels plans together... but we're not technically boyfriend and girlfriend.

Please don't make that face.

I know it sounds kind of retarded (maybe even slightly pathetic), but right now I just can't deal with the whole "girlfriend" label, I need a break from it. Seriously, that title connotes feelings of (if I'm honest) burden, smothering, and just a lot of stress in general for me, so I can't go back to it just yet. And I know that the way things were in my last relationship aren't necessarily the way things will be in my next one - I get that - but right now I'm feeling ... free. I only have me to worry about and I want it to stay that way (at least for a little while longer). It's not about still wanting to be able to see other people, or being all hipster and too cool for labels or anything, I just really need a casual status right now, for my own sanity. And he's genuinely ok with that. So you see? All good!

We're just similar enough to want to do new and fun things together like go to cool museum exhibits, fashion shows and even a televised awards show a couple weeks ago, and just different enough to ensure that the more regular things we do together are always interesting. We have fun, we're not rushing, and we're content with that.

So officially (for now) we're ... "companions". No, that sounds like were 80. "Friends". No, closer than that, "special friends". Ok that really does make us sound retarded. Whatever, you get the point. We're happy, as is.

No pressure, no labels, just us.

11 comments:

  1. But if you wanted the label he'd be cool with that?

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  2. I like that, no labels just you gys being you. And if something happens later then thats cool too. I see no problem, if you both are fine with it, congrats. Have fun while & be happy

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  3. @ Jenny DB: Yes. I think if it was was up to him, I'd have been his girlfriend a while ago. He's letting me take the time I need because he knows where I stand in terms of my feelings for him. It's not about us, it's about me, he gets that.

    @Jassy_onya'e: Thanks!

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  4. Well the important thing is that you're happy. No need for labels when they will just pressure you to be someone else entirely :)

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  5. Further evidence that women are insane...

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  6. Im in the exact same situation so im with you on not wanting the label just yet..I just wish that my " special friend" or wtv didn't put so much pressure on me to get the girlfriend label.

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  7. Devil's advocate here...

    I totally understand what you mean by the pressures labels bring and stuff, especial in this day-n-age. However, it seems like you want all the cool, hip, exciting, fun things that are involved and are part of makeup of a relationship but yet you don't want the title right? Don't you think its also kind of like a cope out though?

    Even though you call your self "companions" that still is a form of a relationship. Companionship can just be as intensive or stressful as a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship no?

    Again just my thoughts, but always, always, respect a person's decision....no matter how incomprehensible it may seem to moi! You got to do you and nobody but you....

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  8. Do what makes you happy! Sometimes we put too much on labels and titles. As long as you two are having fun, enjoy each others company and are okay with the current arrangement, then you should be fine.

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  9. Sounds like you have a good thing going. The relationship will be the same regardless what lable you do or don't put on it.

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    XoXo

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  11. "I know it sounds kind of retarded (maybe even slightly pathetic), but right now I just can't deal with the whole "girlfriend" label, I need a break from it. Seriously, that title connotes feelings of (if I'm honest) burden, smothering, and just a lot of stress in general for me ..."

    U ain't never talked more true, seriously.

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