1.20.2010

Strike 1...

Well, he's invited me on date 3. Fun, except that he wants it to be at his place.

This makes me weary.

He says it's just to "hang out", watch a movie (a scary one, because he knows how much I hate those, charming no?), eat ribs, and drink a few Stellas. And, to be honest, I trust that. I mean, he's an adult and so am I, so we both know that there are, of course, some other more devious intentions behind that idea, but really that's part of the fun of it all. Besides, I carry a can of bear spray in my purse and I'm not afraid to use it, so you see, it's not the actual date at his house part that bothers me.

What bothers me is the timing of it all. Yes it's date 3, but it's still only week 1. And to be honest, the fact that he's already thinking he's at this point with me is kind of a let down. Yes I want to make-out, but I want courtship too! Two dates does not a bed mate make (or cuddle buddy, wtv). Perhaps I have to make that a little bit clearer.

So I'm going to push this one back a bit you know, give him some time to cool off...

14 comments:

  1. I'm not sure where I stand on this one. Wait, don't wait...? My last relationship started off similarly. We met on a Sunday, had a casual date on Wednesday, and then sex at his place after a movie/wine on Friday night. I remember feeling bad about sleeping with him so quickly... but the chemistry was so THERE. We were together for 3 years so I guess it didn't do any harm...

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  2. Do what feels right. And to me it sounds like you're not ready. That's your answer.

    I think being clear is good :)

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  3. I agree with Lifebegins. If you feel like you're being rushed then he needs to back off a bit!

    Kate x

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  4. the fact you have doubts answers your question... plus a little waiting never hurt anyone. I try to stick by my 5 date rule (not that I have been too successful)... a bit of sexual tension goes a long way.
    three dates in a week seems quite steep, the last thing you want to do is find yourself in another super serious relationship so quickly.
    : )

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  5. I think it all depends on how you personally feel about the person before you head over to their place for "a movie" and "only drinks"-
    there are some guys I wouldn't feel ready to be with, while others that I was ready from the first date.
    Just be cautious if you're not too sure.

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  6. Three dates in week one? Amatuer hour. Give him some significant push back, it's good for him. Sounds like he's coming off as needy and you two have not formed a solid attraction. Neediness does not equal attraction.

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  7. I think slowing down is a good idea, but don't take your foot off the gas altogether.
    http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/

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  8. Wow, three dates in one week, that's super fast... I agree with slowing down a bit.

    Courtship is lacking so much in today's society. Make him work for it lol x

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  9. just watch the movie......have fun eat drink and when you are ready to go GO =]
    if he really likes you he would understand and not take things so fast and personal =]

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  10. I usually call out dudes when they invite me on the make-out date so early... often times they genuinely feel bad about giving me the impression sexy time is all they're interested in. Often times they're not, though, and that's helpful to know.

    Hope there are more dates coming - spaced out with a speed you're comfortable with.

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  11. you could just suggest something else in the same timeframe.. that way uyou're quite clear (more or less) on your standards..

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  12. Three dates on one week sound a bit too fast. Slowing down sounds right.

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  13. I agree with jassy. I've gone to a guy's place, had dinner, drank, watched a movie, and left when i was good and ready without anything happening. But if you're not comfortable, how about suggesting another activity, something low key? If he's a decent guy, he won't care as long as he spends time with you.

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  14. looooove it. set the limits! make him want you more... or something.

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