Ok, so recently I had posted a poll asking whether an attractive straight guy and an attractive straight girl can really be "just friends". While I thought the answer was obvious, to my surprise, a good number of those who voted - I think it was like 60% percent or something- seemed to agree (with each other, and not with me) that yes, it is, in fact, very possible indeed.
Yeeeah sorry, but that definitely sounds wrong.
I don't mean to come off rude, or like a know it all either, but that just doesn't seem to make much sense when you really think about it. If you know a cute, single, straight guy with whom you have a genuine connection and a true friendship and are still not dating him, you're either stupid or stalling. I mean, isn't that what we're all looking for in a partner? Isn't that the very definition of a soul-mate? And don't give me that "I don't want to ruin the friendship" line, because that's BS, if you really are that good of friends on a supposedly "platonic" level, then it can't go wrong if you decide to make it more.
Think about it. Men and women are so fundamentally different, we just don't 'get' each other like we do our own sex. Because of that, we put a lot of value on those qualities which actually do foster a deeper connection between us. Things like humor, sympathy, intelligence and even religion are all qualities that reach out across the gender lines and connect us to people that we otherwise couldn't relate too (ie.: the opposite sex), and because they do, bonds form. And if you're straight, then you're pre-wired to react positively to those bonds and become attracted to those who make you feel them. Make sense? So if you have a guy friend, and he makes you feel like you can relate to him and really understand him - and he's not butt ugly, dumber than a rock, or into other guys (or girls) - then naturally, at one point or another, you're going to start to "like-like" him. To me, it seems rather obvious that the only thing that can stop such feelings from surfacing are circumstances, and even then, the most they can do is put things on pause.
Am I scientist? No. Am I a relationship doctor? Only in my head. All I can base my opinion off of is what I know from my own experiences, and that is this: every guy I've ever been 'friends' with - who was not gay, hideous, or already in a relationship - was either a past fling/crush or future one.
That's it, the truth plain and simple. I'm not going to pretend like I've never thought about kissing any of the guys I've ever been close "friends" with, and you shouldn't either. But if you have a story that proves me wrong and could convince me otherwise, I'd love to hear it.